Today’s Posting is the first in a Series of what the New Age Lifestyle is all about. This series will give insights into how a Woman can Take Charge of her marriage, and Feminize and convert her once “macho” man into a very Pretty and Obedient sissy. This is what Female Empowerment is All about! Reversing the Gender Roles, and establishing the Female as the “Head of Household” through Feminization and Female Power! This is a “Blueprint: of what is possible today, and more and more Women are realizing that the Best relationships they can have with men, is by feminizing the men, and they (the Women) Take Full Control!!
This is the story of Kirsty and Ray (Rachel). As we document the journey, keep in mind, it takes a certain amount of Strength for a person to Take initiative and make Changes that go “against the grain” of Society! Determined Women are indeed doing this in more and more cases, and it is so Delightful to see. One of the Purposes of this Posting is to Encourage other Women that might have their doubts about what is Possible, IF they are Determined to make Changes in their Life for the Better!
Here is Kirsty’s story:
Hello Everyone! My name is Kirsty and my sissy partner is called Rachel. He is now well trained and presents himself full-time as my feminized gurlfriend. The key to his obedience is keeping his little cockette in chastity. He has lists of daily duties to serve me and my various girlfriends. His feminine presentation has really improved. His makeup skills are really excellent.
I met my husband Ray ( a name I never use now or even like hearing) when we were both young and to be quite honest, naive. We got together during college and really supported each other as we tried to find our way in the big bad world. We both had sheltered backgrounds and I was an only child. Ray had a very dominant mother and a gentle father who sadly passed away just before he left school.
Rachel and I first started our relationship in our last year of college. As mentioned he was an only child with a dominant mother and no male role model following the death of his father when he was still at school. He was shy with girls but did like the company of his more boisterous mates that he had connections with through his sport.
It was during this time that Rachel told me about his desire to use makeup and make himself look pretty.
As I previously mentioned I didn’t really mind but wondered if it stopped at just makeup or was a precursor to crossdressing which did turn out to be the case.
When you first met Rachel, what kind of man was he?
He was kind, thoughtful and considerate but competitive. He was better alone rather than being in other male company
You said he played Sports, what Sports did he play?
He played Rugby, Soccer, Cricket, Cycling, Golf and Tennis
I haven’t got many photos of Rachel playing sport but did find a couple that may be ok. One is a cricket photo and the other is from his Rugby days leaping for the ball. It is interesting to notice how much his body has slimmed down and changed shape since then ( I must say for the better)
Did he have many masculine pursuits before his Feminization?
He loved watching sport but doesn’t have time to do it anymore! I instructed Rachel to provide for you a List of Duties that he is to perform. You will see that he no longer has time for such things as watching sports! Sissies are here to Serve their Females, not to pursue male sports!
The List: (This is so AWESOME for a Woman to Control her man in this Fashion!!!)
At what point did you know that he liked to crossdress?
After 18 months of going out together and just as we started to get serious he told me that he liked to try different makeup looks and make himself look pretty.
I was a bit shocked at first but didn’t really mind as I thought it was no more than a bit of harmless fun. I asked him if it was just makeup or did he want to wear women’s clothing. He was embarrassed by my question and said it was only makeup.
Well of course I had to see what he looked like so when we got back home I sent him upstairs and told him to help himself to my basket of spare makeup products that I kept in the bedroom. He took about 30 mins before returning looking suitably embarrassed with his pink cheeks, blue eyeshadow, mascara and red lipstick. His application was actually pretty good but of course it was too much and over the top.
I did respect his honesty in telling me just as we were thinking of settling down but in a funny way his makeup sessions did make him more subservient. So after we got married the balance of power began to turn in my favor each time he did his makeup.
So I knew Ray (who I will now call Rachel) was bordering on being a crossdresser when we got married. As mentioned it never really bothered me as an occasional thing. However over the years I’ve seen an increased sophistication with his looks and he did finally confess that he wanted to try on some clothes. It started with a few of my old things but they never really fit him properly. I did catch him wearing my panties once which I was cross about. I told him to get his own which he duly did making a purchase online. A little aside, when Ray was growing up, his mother is a very strong Woman, and all along she wanted to have a daughter. She told me the story of how she entered Ray into a baby competition as he was so Cute! He won a prize, but the judges thought he was a little Girl so the prize was a pink hairbrush and a pink bodysuit! I know Rachel has always looked up to his mum. He has often mentioned that his mum liked him to have long hair and to make sure that it was washed every day! Another significant Female influence in his early life was his primary school teacher, who by the sound of it was another very Strong Woman. Ray looked up to her and he did tell me that she always applied her red lipstick in class just before lunchtime. This fascinated Ray who also remembers her painting her nails in class. I think this goes to show the impact that Strong and Dominant Women can have on young boys!
So many times in a marriage, the more Dominant spouse is the one that earns the higher Income. Money is Power! Who was earning the higher Income when you got married?
In the beginning, Rachel was earning more than me. He had a job working on a production line, checking the Quality of Widgets! It was a completely boring job, and did not pay well, but it was more than what I earned at my clerical job. The trouble was that his job prospects were maxed out and be didn’t have the drive to do anything about it! We were quite hard up with his dead end job just ticking over and my traditional female admin job was not paying very well. The change came when I decided we needed to do something and I applied for a sales job with my existing employer in pharmaceuticals. I knew nothing about the products or anything to do with Sales, but I Pushed myself forward, unlike Rachel, and I made a Success of it! Rachel was shocked when I got the job but didn’t realize that I worked extremely hard to get it with my macho manager to be. I played up to him in my interviews and he offered me the job in front of several more qualified candidates. I took the job quickly and started to earn good commissions and so became the main bread winner. This made Rachel feel a little insecure and once again a power shift had taken place.
I was working longer and longer hours and would often come back late to find Rachel waiting for me looking pretty with his makeup applied. I noticed he was getting better at applying it and even started to create a smoky eye look. I encouraged him to try some different more exotic looks and bought him new eyeshadow pallets, eyeliner gel pens and lipsticks for his birthday and Christmas. It was a few months after this when one weekend he asked whether I minded if he tried on some of my old clothes.
I sorted some things out for him but they didn’t really fit, so I bought him a cheap wig, a blouse and skirt and a summer dress from a charity shop to try out. This really opened the flood gates to his dressing. Our relationship changed once again with Rachel being agreeable to anything I suggested as the last traits of his masculinity were disappearing in front of me. At this point, I encouraged him to dress more often and insisted that all his male underwear be replaced with panties. I also insisted that he kept his toenails painted at all times. Somewhat surprisingly I met little resistance to these changes, but unknown to Rachel, this was just the start! What a Thrill it was to see my man emasculated!
At this stage I got Rachel to take over all the domestic chores under my guidance and control and insisted he was always dressed as Rachel in heels and dresses when he did his jobs.
Meanwhile my career in pharmaceutical sales was taking off and I started to travel more and more with work. This left plenty of time for Rachel to dress at home in private which I was happy for him to do as long as he undertook more of the domestic jobs. It started with cleaning, but I quickly added washing, ironing and food shopping. This required quite a bit of my time to make sure he did it how I wanted it to be done but each time I made him present himself as Rachel to make sure he made the connection between crossdressing and doing domestic jobs. Before you ask I didn’t make him go food shopping dressed at first but he did have to wear panties, have his toenails painted and wore pantyhose under his male clothing. Overall, our lives together were good. Rachel was very caring to me, thoughtful and I enjoyed living with him, particularly now that he does all the house work, cooking, washing and Ironing. He is more like a sister/best friend to me rather than my husband. The Big change came when I was Promoted at work! We celebrated with a night out at a quiet restaurant where I told him that things were going to change permanently! The changes included him moving out of my bedroom and into the spare room. I told him that he needed to decorate it into his own Femininely themed room, with a vanity unit and soft furnishings. It was then that I introduced him to his chastity devise and instructed him that he was to wear it at all times, unless I gave him permission to remove it, which was necessary, because I was the Lone keyholder! That was the ultimate “key” moment! Previously, after each dress up session he would climax and then rebalance his hormones, and quickly wanted to resume his male role. Chastity stopped all of that and kept him longing to remain feminine!
The only times that irritated me was when his old sports mates came on the scene. I was able to keep these meet ups to a minimum and found by giving Rachel plenty of jobs to do there was no time for the macho drinking sessions. I also encouraged him to spend weekends en femme to avoid any outside temptations. Any attempt he made to meet up with his previous macho friends was stopped immediately which he generally accepted, although once I did have to threaten to post a picture of him on Facebook all dolled up to the nines. That ended that foolishness! But the dilemma I had was needing to control his little cockette so he remained passive and subservient but this then meant no sex for me. Our sex life was pretty vanilla but I didn’t have a lot to compare it too. I did notice that Rachel got extra randy after applying his makeup so that was quite welcome. I didn’t however realize how small his cockette (which by the way is safely locked up now) was compared to others, but when I found out everything changed. A Solution had to be come upon!!!!
So I started researching Female Led Relationships which had steered me to encouraging him to be Rachel full time and to gradually increasing my control and influence over him. This is when the final stage of control occurred. I got him to quit his job and become my full time sissy. I included the condition that he must dress full time as Rachel. He was a little anxious about this, but to be honest, I gave him no choice. He either moved out with no job or he stayed with me as a kept sissy! The only money coming in was through my bank account and I got our savings all transferred into an account in my name Only!!! Of course, there was no real choice for him to make. I had Complete Control of the finances! So, as you stated in your question, the one that Controls the Money has the Power! I have the Power!
One of the Resources I found in my researching FLR was Mistress Rebecca. I speak separately to Mistress Rebecca (Becky to me) when I need her help and encouragement with Rachel. In fact it has been life changing for me befriending Becky. We chatted on line everyday and found out that we had both had early Lesbian relationships in our lives. I became so excited thinking about a girl on girl relationship that I joined a gay dating website and met Katharine my live in lover. As I think I have already mentioned Katharine has her own business and owns a number of beauty salons. She is a very strong woman and readily embraced Rachel as my sissy husband. Since Katharine moved in with us a couple of months ago she has started to take over Rachel’s training and has him working in one of her salons 3 days a week. Meanwhile Katharine and I are really in love with each other and she has helped me realize that I don’t need macho males in my life anymore. I know Katharine appreciates having Rachel do all our domestic jobs leaving us to concentrate on our careers and spending time with each other. She says she has an ultimate plan for Rachel but wants to keep it a secret at the moment
Two things I picked up from articles I have been reading on FLR were the need for Rachel to get something out of this so he enjoys his service to me and Katharine and secondly to have agreed upon punishments if required.
It is fair to say Rachel has had his ups and downs with how our relationship has developed and there have been times when I’ve had to stamp on his remaining male ego however he loves the clothes, makeup and doing the domestics but he has struggled with our relationship change and me having lover’s coming to stay overnight. He really didn’t have a choice however when he realized that I was changing my life style and either he came along for the ride (excuse the pun) or he could leave with no job or money.
In terms of punishment Rachel clearly understands what I will accept and what I will not and if he crosses the line there has to be a consequence. The chastity cage was introduced after I found sticky messes in his panties. He is now happy to keep this on full time although I have to say it is shriveling up his little cockette. Generally I embarrass him as punishment e.g. I made him call up 2 charity shops and ask if they had female tops, scarfs and belts available. When they said yes he had to explain that he is a Crossdresser and wants the name of a member of staff that could help him when he arrived at the shop
I would love to have seen his pink cheeks!!!!
Our relationship is perfect for me and Rachel is embracing his new role. He needs help and support from time to time which I can help with to some degree. I have encouraged him to raise his online profile and we have found an online mistress who also gives him support as well. We have gone through several key stages including
1. Chastity which has greatly improved his concentration and servitude.
2. Moving him into his own bedroom which he has redecorated and made into his own gurlie room (including female only wardrobe, makeup and vanity unit, pink decor etc)
3. Giving up his job which was really mundane and repetitive so that he can concentrate on looking after the house and everything I need
4. Being full time Rachel with the only exception being to visit doctors or other official institutions
5. He has to wear makeup all the time and take care of his hygiene daily ( full body dehair) and needs to be available for my inspection by 7am every morning
6. He has to carry out all his domestic duties to comply with a daily task list ( I will send you a copy) Previously posted!
7. I make all major financial decisions and authorize bill payments which Rachel then makes. He has budgets for the household which he has to stick too unless authorized by me
.8. He has his own budget for hygiene, make up and clothes which he cannot exceed. If he wants something special he needs to show me first and then explore charity shops before being allowed to purchase new
9. Of more recent times as he has gotten better at presenting himself, he goes shopping as Rachel. This has been a big success and his confidence has grown.
10. He has a period every 5 weeks lasting 7 days. This has a complete schedule of things to do but basically involves wearing panty pads, tampons, strawberry jam a corset and drinking a lot of water to simulate bloating and being uncomfortable! I will give you more information on this
Hi Patti, here is Rachel’s period plan that he put together with my help and his on line mistress Miss Rebecca. He has now been doing this for 4 months and doesn’t complain at all now. His food intake really falls off during the week because of his corset and the water he takes on board. I believe all men should do something similar to this to understand what we as Strong Females have to go through
11. He has to be honest with retail staff about being a sissy crossdresser if it involves receiving personal service.
I did mention to you, that I sometimes have him help me as my Personal Assistant with work. When those times occur, I insist that he has to dress as a proper PA. The following picture is one of his PA outfits for when he is assisting me.
Does his Family know that he is now Feminized?
He is an only child and his dad died sometime ago. His mum knows and is quite happy she now has a daughter. Between you and me I think his mum always hoped for a daughter
Does your Family realize he is Feminized?
Yes they all know. My step sister thinks it’s sweet and loves to embarrass Rachel whenever she can. My Dad can’t understand it but my mum quite likes the fact that I’m in charge
Do your Friends all know that he is a Feminized male?
Yes my girlfriend’s know about my sissy and our joint friends do as well. Rachel has no need now for his old macho pals anymore!!
Does he own any male clothing?
He only has one set of male clothes for the times that he has to visit the doctor’s office or other Official Offices, but these are rare occasions!
When you have friends over, does Rachel make himself look extra Feminine?
Yes he spends a lot of time on his appearance and is constantly checking himself out in the mirror. He is always keen to refresh his lipstick after eating and drinking. I’ve even noticed that some of the men in our group of friends even check him out and yet they know that he is a male!
What do your Girlfriends think of your Role Reversed marriage?
My girlfriend’s love the idea of me having a sissy particularly now that I’m not reliant on him for sex anymore. I think they are jealous!
What is his typical day like?
Rachel’s alarm is set for 5:30am to give him time to shower, get dressed and apply his makeup. He generally has Katharine’s and my breakfasts ready in our bedroom by 7am ready for our inspection of his feminine look. After that he follows his daily task schedule which I sent you a copy of. Please note, now that he will be working three days a week in the Salon his “to do” list is going to be compressed, which will result in giving him no free time!
Do you play sports?
Yes. Katharine and I go to the gym, run, cycle, play golf and Tennis
What kind of exercising does Rachel do to maintain his figure?
He cycles, runs, gym and lots and lots of house work
Do you have him on a special Diet?
Yes. Rachel is on a limited diet and has lost over 20lbs in weight this year. Interestingly we have him on foods with high estrogen content including Soya, fruits such as Strawberries and Raspberries, Walnuts and Seeds, Green vegetables such as Broccoli, Beans and Cabbage. He also has lots of Lavender scented baths which stimulate breast growth!
Will he have a Dress Code that he will need to adhere to at his salon job?
Yes. He has to wear his company blouse, skirt and pantyhose with a minimum 3″ heel shoe. Makeup is stipulated of course and must include foundation, the business brand red lipstick and false eyelashes and eyeliner
What are Katharine’s thoughts on male Feminization?
Katharine is very supportive of Rachel and is taking over his training. She is a very strong woman and likes to dominate!
Remember this guy from the beginning of the Post?
Isn’t he a much better man wearing his pretty dress, heels and hose and made up to look Sweet for the Pleasure of his Strong Wife and her Strong Girlfriend?
As we become accustomed to the Reversed Gender Roles, Society will start to realize the Great Benefits of the Role Reversed Society!
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