Today’s posting will focus on the changes that are happening everyday in society. I get a lot of questions about “Is this for Real?” Yes, this is for real. Is it everywhere….No. Are dynamics changing…Yes. I do not “doctor” any photos. The photos I get are in the public domain, and I do my best to verify whether the person in the photo is a male or a female. Gender Role Reversal is indeed happening. The biggest question to be answered is “Do Women want this change to happen?” If the Women want it to happen, it Will!
The young 12 year old girl, football player, in this photo was “pushed” off her football team because the boys protested her being on it. If Women would go to the Youth Sports clubs, and protest back, suggesting a Law Suit, this girl would be on the team. If Women are steadfast, then Females will Exceed. Sime of these same mothers could also insist that their schools have Womanless Pageants on a regular basis, and “Switch days” at least once a month.
Many Girls are playing baseball, and that is Good!
Tokyo makeup artist tells us why having a joso-loving lover makes the relationship “twice as fun.”
Some people might find the most surprising thing about 35-yer-old Megumi Okamoto and her boyfriend Akira to be the 11-year age gap between the two of them. But that hasn’t stopped the two from falling happily in love, nor has the fact that Akira’s hobby is joso, or dressing as a woman.
▼ Akira and Megumi
Our Japanese-language reporter Go Hattori (who’s no stranger to slipping on women’s clothing) recently sat down with the couple, who’re planning to get married soon, to talk about their unique relationship.
Go: “First off, how did you meet each other?”
Megumi: “We met at the event Rarunai, which is a big gathering for joso enthusiasts. He left a deep impression on me by performing a pole dance as Yuna, his joso persona, while wearing a ranodesru backpack.”
Akira: “It’s actually the same randoseru that I used when I was in elementary school. It’ always had a lot of sentimental value to me, but now it feels even more special because it’s part of the reason I met Megumi.”
Go: “So what do you call each other?”
Megumi: “Well, I usually use his legal name, Akira.”
Akira: “Same for me. Her name is Megumi Okamoto, so I call her Megumi.”
Go: “Do you ever get into arguments?”
Megumi and Akira: “Yes, we do!”
Akira: “We have the exact same sort of fights you’d expect from a man and woman who’re dating.”
Megumi: “We’re partners romantically and professionally/ [Megumi owns the Tokyo makeup studio Raar, which specializes in joso services, and Akira now works there as well]. So before busy joso events, we argue about work. Arguments are something you can’t entirely avoid between coworkers, or between men and women.”
Go: “So when you’re not fighting, where do you go on dates?”
Akira: “Recently, we went to Ashikaga Flower Park in Tochigi Prefecture to see the wisteria, since they were in bloom. Naturally, I dressed as a woman. We also sometimes go on cosplay dates.”
Megumi: “A lot of the time, when we go out, we have ‘dress up dates,’ where I get spruced up too and we take pictures of each other.”
Go: “Do you go on girlish dates? Does it feel like you’re two women who’re friends would go to for fun?”
Megumi: “You could say that when you’re dating a man who cross-dresses, you get to enjoy the date two times. You can enjoy it feeling like you’re out with your boyfriend, and then you can enjoy it again feeling like you’re with a female friend. It’s really a good deal, because you get to have twice as much fun!”
Go: “What are some of the other good things about dating a guy who dresses as a woman?”
Megumi: “Through my work, I deal with a lot of men who dress as women, and as a whole they’re very clean and hygienic. It’s like they have a highly developed concept of beauty. Also, they have an understanding, and are perceptive, of subtle aspects of a woman’s psychology.”
Akira: “For example, if she’s wearing a different style of makeup than she usually does, or a shorter skirt, I think ‘She wants to look cute, so she feels like today is a special day.’”
Megumi: “Also, and maybe I’m just saying this because of my age, but if you’re a woman who’s really putting a of time and effort into your job, I strongly recommend a gentle, responsible man who cross-dresses. We divide up the chores, and I do the cleaning and laundry. He does the cooking and tracks our expenses, down to the exact yen, for both our household and business. That lets me concentrate on the makeup work itself.”
Go: “It sounds like you two are a really great match.”
Megumi: “I think that if you’re a woman who doesn’t think of yourself as classically or stereotypically feminine, a guy who cross-dresses is a great match for you, and so considering dating one would be a good move.”
Of course, that leaves the question of where to meet such a guy, but Megumi has an answer for that as well.
On May 27, Raar will be co-hosting an event dubbed the Lovely Girls’ Party for Joso Men and Women Who Love Joso Men, which is being held at the Tropical Lounge in Tokyo’s Shinjuku neighborhood. Admission is 6,000 yen (US$56) for joso participants, and 4,000 yen for women, with further details available through the official Raar Twitter account.
Lovely Girls’ Party for Joso Men and Women Who Love Joso Men / 女装男子と女装男子好きな女子の素敵な女子会
Venue: Tropical Lounge / トロピカルラウンジ
Address: Tokyo-to, Shinjuku-ku, Kabukicho 2-9-3, Sankei 59 Building, 4th floor
May 27, 5 p.m.-8 p.m.
3rd May 2018 at 4:05 am
It started after our first date. She said she wanted to be the dominant one. She was at least six inches taller. I totally agreed. I spent the night. She removed all my body hair and I was wearing panties. They were not her size, so she must have be planning this for awhile.
I now go by Katie Lynn. I wear panties and hose all the time. Dresses and skirts around the house. Women’s slacks, shorts, and tops in public Some women’s shoes.
29th April 2018 at 1:33 pm
Dear Lady Alexa,
I have been trying to introduce my wife to the FLR lifestyle the past few months with mixed results. She was brought up and taught to think that males were in charge and females followed their lead so it’s been challenging for her to embrace this kind of life. At times she gets into it then she pulls back. I think she looks at it as a game I want to play and not as the life I want to live. I strive to serve her so she can see how wonderful that would make her life. I am being patient and let her know how wonderful it is the times she does take charge.
After reading this entry I asked her if I could read it to her. I gave her a long back and foot massage then she agreed. After reading it her she asked me to read it again. During that reading she stopped me many times asking questions. When we finished she was silent for close to a minute then asked, Is this what you really want?
After enthusiastically saying yes, she slowly asked again….is THIS what you REALLY want? After again saying yes she said, Ok I’ll give this serious thought. She told me not to bring it up again until she was ready to talk about it. I was ecstatic and thanked her agreeing to her condition.
On April 25th she told me during dinner she was ready to discuss things. She started by asking again if I truly wanted to live a FLR lifestyle and I said yes I definitely do. She said she had read your entire blog and many other sites and a few books on FLR and was intrigued by the idea. She said many of the ideas and ways women benefitted from FLR were appealing. She said that she would like to do a 3 month “trial period” before committing to doing it long term. She was in the process of drawing up a contract that we would both sign on the 30th and start it on May 1st. I was/am so excited she agreed and can’t wait to sign her contract and start our 90 day trial! She told me this will not be a game and is going to be the real thing. I excitedly said I understood.
Last night we were watching a show and she asked me to make her dinner. I politely declined and she responded, Ok then I’m telling, not asking you to make me dinner! I obediently got up and did it for her.
Tomorrow night at 10pm she is going to go over the contract she made and we will both sign it. I am beyond excited but nervous at the same time.
I will let you know how it goes and am hoping the 3 months turns into a permanent lifestyle for us!